Soooo I got my face shaved…


I literally went under the knife and let Jennifer (whom I trust completely with my skin) perform Dermaplane. Y’all WHY is it so therapeutic? You’d think that having a damn scalpel scraped across my face would cause all kinds of stress. NOPE. It felt so good, and I could feel her touching my new skin and I swear it felt like she was stroking silk. Just amazing.

The thing is, I didn’t know what she was talking about when she first suggested it. I’d seen a ton of videos and crap about people shaving their faces but you know YouTube is RATCHET because these mofos were holding up Lady Gillette Razors talking about shaving their faces. There was one video by Lisa Eldridge and another by a couple of women that I have blocked out because it was kinda gushy and annoying, but I swear I didn’t connect the two until Jennifer explained why it would be a crap idea for me to go into heat or humidity after she was done. She’s like “Honey I’m taking a scalpel to your face.” And that’s when I IMG_3589got super excited because I had been meaning to ask her about it, only for the life of me I couldn’t remember what the name of the treatment was.


Now I know.

So I’m laying there and she’s just scraping away and I’m thinking this would be a fantastic alternative to peels because it feels so damn good and the results are instant. Once the shedding starts on a peel, I have to wait about a week for everything to fall away and be fabulous. But as soon as I left the office, I was looking in the rear view mirror like YAAAAASSSSS. 😉 My cheeks were a little red from the stimulation but damn if my skin didn’t look brand new! Ignore my chapped ass lips. I dealt with them as soon as I looked atIMG_3590 the picture like EWWW. And I couldn’t take another one ’cause the light turned green! #lagirlproblems I am so happy with the results.

No sooner had I parked my car, I tested out my new skin with the ‘barest’ of bare makeup. I matted down my new skin with Innissfree No Sebum powder, which has no color. I put NARS Orgasm on my cheeks, the lightest dusting of dark brown shadow at my lashline and mascara, and that lip tint stuff from Glossier in Cake.

I posted the picture on Instagram and one of my students was like… “Ummm I want some skin love!” So I’m gonna set her up with Jennifer because y’all that woman is everything. I’ve already referred two people who are seeing her regularly. She works with you and your products, which is huge for me because I MAKE PRODUCTS. And we agree that products and regimens are like food and diet. The products themselves aren’t evil. A regimen doesn’t work all the time. You pivot and adjust based on your skin’s needs at the time. Because skin adapts (mine does in about a week or two), it’s important to keep the routine fresh. There are days when I just cleanse with water (I KNOW! If you’d told me that 3 years ago I would have laughed in your face) because that’s all my skin needs. There are days when Sunday Riley’s JUNO is the only thing my skin wants, and there are days when it gets angry and congested because of the exact same product. My sleep patterns, diet, stress, and general environment have so much to do with my skin, which wants to be kinda disrespectful from time to time. I’ve learned so much patience and observation in the quest to keep it balanced and blemish free.

Later I did a bit more with coverage to see what happened. That’s Missha Super Light Oil Foundation in w23, mixed with Cover FX Enhacer in Candlelight (because it’s a bit too light and Candlelight is a bit too dark) and 3 drops of the Calming Oil. Eyes are the Chanel Autumn Palette from last year… ? Peach on the inner lid, brown on the outer. Lash line is Urban Decay Zero, smudged out with a liner brush. Waterline is Chanel Or Rose. Cheeks are Kiko Blush in 100 (still LOVE) and lips are a combo of Black Moon Liquid Lipstick in Harvest (which is what OFRA Miami Fever should have been), and Lipstick Queen gloss in Avarice. Maybe I should have blotted ’cause my lips are doing the most.

Anyway, I’m HAPPY. Like really happy with the Dermaplane results. And no, I haven’t forgotten about the skin care post. It’s still coming (photographing pictures is taking a sec because I don’t wanna use stock images).

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Musings on Skin Care & FOTD

If you guys haven’t figured out by now, I’m a skin care junkie. Although I mostly IMG_3555share makeup items on this blog, it’s the SKIN man! Head to toe. I don’t mess around. I love anything that’ll help me look and FEEL good. This is key. Habibi is built on the premise of feeling and overall wellness. The products are made for efficacy, sure. But it’s also about the way you feel. SO I’m gonna gather up some of my regulars in skin care (no, not all Habibi) and share some of the habits I’ve honed to keep my skin balanced and regularly blemish free. Anyone who’s been following this blog for longer than five minutes knows just how much I’ve struggled with my skin. So please be clear that I’m not bouncing in here like “Oh you guys I was just blessed with perfect skin and I don’t know what to tell you if you don’t have it!” SMH. Y’all know what I’m talking about when I say that. The truth is I’ve been acne and hyper-pigmentation prone since puberty. And when I tell you that I’m WAY past that stage in my hormonal life… listen. My acne acted a monkey ass pretty much up until a few years ago, so trust me when I tell you that I understand the struggle.

Let’s get into this makeup. I went for a heavier coverage for this with Guerlain Parure Gold (do they even make this anymore because I seriously need a backup) in the darkest IMG_3545color (06). I popped Charlotte Tilbury Pressed Powder in Medium through the center. Ummm I have a bone to pick with Miss Charlotte: WHY HAVE I HIT PAN ON THIS? I use it often, sure. But excuse me, I have never gone through a product this fast. That means these pans are shallow as hell, and I don’t like that at all. I’m looking for an alternative because at $45, I shouldn’t be hitting pan at the start of month 2. My former go to pressed (Bobbi Brown) used to last 4 months before I even considered getting a new one. I just use the lightest dusting through the center of my face too… so it’s not even a volume usage issue. I ain’t thinking about miss High Pressure Sales when it comes to this powder. Nope. Trust and believe that I’m about to send my hard earned coins in another direction.

Anyway, I highlighted with a Chanel highlighter (that one with the Camellia Flower that I THINK came out last year. No matter. Becca Pearl will do just fine as a dupe). Highlighter is on the high planes of my face, including tops of the cheekbones, down the center of the nose, in the inner corner of the eyes, and top of the cupid’s bow. No blush, and for my raggedy sister who suggested that I was ‘sucking in my cheeks’ to get those dimples… that’s not contour. I get that effect by lightly turning up my lips. Period. Try it. And hush.

Eyes are from the Viseart Chroma Palette. I used the matte white as a base, then dusted the lightest shimmer over it. Liner is simply the black shadow from the palette, first placed with a stiff angle brush, then diffused with a clean pointed brush. Mascara (if you don’t know by now… c’mon. I’m about to get a second tube while you playin’) and done.

Lips are lined first with Burberry Lip Pencil in Oxblood, and filled in with Dose of Colors Matte Lipstick in Black Rose. Umm… that skipping in the middle is NOT cute. I didn’t notice it until later, and had to fill it in. SMH. This was a limited edition product, and to be honest, I prefer the comfort of OFRA Havana Nights. But this color is stunning and it’s cooler and and more ‘berry’ in hue than OFRA. So now I need something comparable. I’ve been looking at Black Moon? Anyone use that brand yet? Recommendations? Help a sista out!

Skin care routine is coming. Ciao for now!<3



FOTD: MAC Peaches

I think it’s fair to say that MAC Peaches Blush may be my favorite of any blush I’ve ever IMG_3471used. Since I’ve hit pan on not one… but TWO pots of this stuff, there’s plenty of evidence pointing to this fact. It could be that I’m incredibly lazy and the color and formulation is virtually idiot proof, or it could be that it’s just a damn good color on any warm toned skin, including mine.

*why do I look so damn tired in this picture? Oh wait… because I am. jet lag is the devil.*

When I don’t feel like doing much of anything in the way of makeup, this is my go to blush. For this look, I knew that I need to warm up my sallow skin and look like I made an effort, so I actually built the face around the blush. Some people put on blush last… but I tend to do it right after base makeup because it’s a good indicator of where I want to go next.

The eyes are a double blend of Lorac Pro Garnet and Taupe. I didn’t wand the redness of Garnet, but I wanted to warm up Taupe to some semblance of soft smoke. All I did was hit the lid and under the water line and buffed it out. If you guys haven’t figured out by now, I’ve lacked the time and patience for any serious eye art. It needs to look neat and blended, and that’s about the sum of my requirements. I popped Chanel IMG_3470Rose Or liner in my lashline to add a little light and open up my eyes. The the rest is just mascara (Armani… duh), and Tilbury’s Legendary Brows which remains epic in application and performance. If only all her new launches were this good…

Did I skip over the base? I did. That’s YSL Fusion Ink (I know some of y’all hate it for all that damn alcohol but my skin just loves it) in B60 with 3 drops of Cover FX Calming Oil and one Drop of Enhancing Drops in Sunlight. I told you guys I was serious about using that stuff all the time. Now it’s like my cell phone; I have no idea how I lived life before it. 🙂 Tilbury Pressed Powder in Medium is dusted through the center (which is the new norm. I only put it through the t-zone now because my skin has balanced out enough to control oil on its own).

The lips are Urban Decay X Gwen Stefani liner in Ex-Girlfriend… filled all the way in. I topped it with Lipstick Queen Seven Deadly Sins Gloss in Avarice. I might need a backup of that gloss because I’m going through it like water. Poppy King certainly earned her title of Lipstick Queen. That gloss is everything.

If you haven’t gotten your hands on MAC Peaches, don’t cheat yourself. It’s really proof that in the midst of a thousand collection launches every other day of predictably sub-standard quality, once upon a time MAC used to actually be about something. I love this blush with everything. I need to get to purchasing another pot because I simply refuse to be without it.

On Seed Pain, Projection, and Reception

Y’all have a seat and strap in… this is gonna be preachy.

Ever find yourself in a situation and suddenly realize “Wait… I ALREADY STARRED IN THIS IMG_3428MOVIE!” Even if the exchange is in the premature stages of blossoming into some full-blown bullshit, you can already see far enough down the road to know it’s time to exit stage left. NOW.

I think that’s called passing the test. They say you will repeat a lesson until you learn it.

*cue flashback reel*

About 100 years ago, when I was a wee one with the body of a lil’ Goddess and was flittin’ around being happy and showing skin that for real probably should have been draped in some kind of textile… I decided to start a skin care company. I also fell in love. A LOT of good things were happening and I was flying high without a care in the world. I was also experimenting and learning everything I could about scent, senses, skin, Ayurveda, aromatherapy… all the things. In my exuberance and youth, I was bouncing around sharing all my newfound knowledge with anyone who would sit still long enough to listen. This includes a human who, in hindsight, I should have made a wide-ass berth around. At first it was cool. She was about 20 years my senior, and like any zygote looking for guidance, I mistakenly thought that she had my best interests at heart when she smiled… nodded… and offered the occasional nugget of sunshine. In my self-absorption, I failed to pay attention to the bitter droppings that went from being sprinkled every now and again, to full on hours-long tirades that left me drained and a little freaked out. We went from good relations, to cordial, to some ratchet legal shit that I can’t get into. Bottom line is, this person who I’d been working with for the better part of a decade developed a sensitivity to fragrance (and eventually a common chemical used to preserve fragrance… that I’ve never used for the record) that could potentially endanger her… life? No, I’m serious. Policies were implemented, including one that mandated all (several hundred) employees in my department wear unscented everything… from cleansers, to shampoos/conditioners, deodorant… not even air freshener or cleaning wipes (you know that crap you use to wipe down your desk/monitor/keyboard) were allowed. Space-age filters popped up around our work space, designed to detect/destroy common allergens in the air. People were threatening to come in reeking of BO after running 5 miles in the August heat and eating pickled eggs & garlic. It was bad y’all. In the middle of it… I was sitting there looking at my bootleg bottle of lavender essential oil and wondering what the hell happened.

Seed Pain + Projection.

“My mother never loved me…”<— very common beginning to our conversations.

So now that I’m a little older (incidentally, about the same age as she was when all this crap went down), you might say that I’ve learned a thing or two. The notion that ‘hurt people hurt people’ is not new… but I don’t think we really pay attention to it until it happens to us, especially when it comes from a person whose pain you initially failed to recognize and respect.

Fast forward to several days ago, when I was sitting in a happy sweaty heap after a yoga class, and was approached about my ‘scent’ and how my behavior needs to change.prince side eye

Say what now?


Now, to be fair, there are some specific differences between my last saga and the introduction to this one:

1) I’m older, wiser, and more f-deficient than ever.

2) I actually know what I’m doing with aromatherapy now. I understand potential allergy triggers, processing for essential oils, and elimination of reactive blends and substances. I don’t wear any perfume or fragrance oils or essential oils beyond lavender or lemon when I’m practicing or teaching… and those are by-products of whatever lotion/hair oil happens to be on my person. I don’t wear any added fragrance in the studio. Ever.

3) The person complaining actually uses all manner of essential oils (from a brand that happens to be full of solvents and allergy triggers) with no regard to anyone around who might catch a whiff.

4) On this particular morning, I happened to be wearing nothing at all. I took a bird bath (shut up) because I was rushing and wanted to make it to class on time.

Talk about hypocrisy. People got some damn nerve.

So guess what we’re not gonna do? We’re not gonna have this conversation. NOPE. Because I see you. I SEE YOU. I see your pain and I see your projection. I see how you speak to/treat other people, I see how you are generally bothered by things that no one is paying attention to because… TRIVIAL… and I see how you (I’ll assume for the moment unintentionally) tend to make your discomfort everyone else’s concern.

I See You.

Listen. I starred in this movie. And I’m too old to let some unhappy human bully me about some shit that I know. Good, bad or indifferent, this is my reception. I’m not saying it’s right. I’m saying it has evolved(?) over years and experience and at the moment, this is the space in which I breathe. I’ll tell you what though: in the 48 hours that I mulled over whether to move forward with my response, I didn’t sleep. I was agitated and uncertain. Since moving forward, I’m sleeping just fine.

For now, that’s enough.


*that lipstick is Urban Decay Hex (over Ex-Girlfriend lip liner). Supposed to be a mega-matte. Does that look matte to you? Yeah, me neither.*

FOTD: Temporary Lighting Situation

I’ve lost access to my Diva Light and shooting space for a few days, so I’m making do with the vanity in my bathroom. No flash, and an extra light bulb, and it appears that the result might IMG_3407not be too bad. Plus the stark white background gives my skin a boost of warmth that was honestly lost using the Diva Light. No, that does not mean that I’m abandoning it. Yes, that does mean that I’m making some adjustments.

So… about this foundation routine. Since I got them, I’ve been using Cover FX Oil Drops (calming) and Cover FX Custom Enhancer Drops. I use 3 drops of oil and 1-2 drops of the Enhancer Drops. Doesn’t matter the foundation… this has become the new norm. The result is less actual foundation on my face. I apply in extremely thin layers until I get the finish that I want. I have three of the Custom Enhancer Drops: Moonlight, Sunlight and Candlelight. All of them work beautifully on my skin. I have NOT used them for highlighting purposes because I consider that an extreme waste of this product’s potential. You can use any highlighter on the planet, but to blend or prime (with an moisturizer) with these drops is truly taking them to the next level. You skin literally looks lit from within. I love them, and I’m not sure I’m ever giving them up. Now, all my foundation looks flat to me without them. 🙂

This particular FOTD is Koh Gen Doh Aqua Foundation mixed with Enhancer Drops in Candlelight. Blush is NARS Orgasm. Shadows are from the LORAC PRO Palette (Purple, Garnet and Light Bronze) all kind of mashed together. Lips are Kat Von D Liquid Lipstick in Lolita II and Lipstick Queen Seven Deadly Sins gloss in Avarice.

Updates and Aquisitions


Okay, I’m not really up. I’m totally faking it. My body clock will likely be a mess for a few IMG_3384days, but I’m rolling with it. I have to teach a double today. Here’s hoping I don’t fall asleep in the middle of ‘Inhale Tadasana’… yeah.

Fires have been put out and things appear to be back on track. When I tell y’all that I worked ALL DAY yesterday to right the ship… whew! Customer service is a massive deal to me. I try to make sure everyone is taken care of either by me or another member of our little family. Even something as simple as acknowledging an email can go such a long way. I don’t like to feel like I’m being ignored by a company, no matter how trivial my issue, so I understand how big a deal it is to have someone say ‘I See You.’ I think we’ve done our best to see everyone and address the ridiculous sale that byredo-rose_of-no-man-land-comprare-migliore-profumowasn’t. Next time I know better and will put fail-safes in place.

A couple of things have made it into my makeup and skin collection in the past week or so. I was digging around Barneys and came across Byredo Rose of No Man’s Land. Smells like every ‘skin scented rose’ fragrance claims to want to smell. It smells like warm skin rubbed in rose petals on a hot summer day. A little sun, a little sweat, a lot of roses … all totally amazing. I LOVE it. I’ve been burned by Byredo in the past (that dry down is key) so I’ve been hesitant to dive back in. I’m still suffering cinnamon flashbacks from too much Seven Veils (you have to mix it or suffer the consequences), and the boring commonality of Blanche. But Rose of No Man’s Land TROY SURRAT LASH CURLERreminds me why I was attracted to the brand in the first place. It’s a Rose for people who actually don’t like Rose. *raising hand* Color me impressed.

Now y’all know that I have a love/hate relationship with Troy Surrat’s unreliable behind. So I was NOT interested in his eyelash curler… until I tried it. Charlotte Tilbury is somewhere kicking herself because she didn’t think of this first: the thing is so long and wide that it catches every.single.lash. And it doesn’t give you that unnatural doll curl. Instead you end up with something that looks totally natural and kind of ‘sweeping’… and I swear you can just curl your lashes and not even stress about mascara if you’ve got a decent fringe to start with. It’s that good. I’m mad that I like it so much. SMH. But I’ll give props when it’s due. He did good on this one. I’m still not messing with that overpriced impractical makeup though.

I know everyone and their mother is raving about sheet masks, but most of them are a pass for me. Since they got popular, fools are slapping all kinds of gunk on a sheet of cotton, cutting out eye and lip holes, and calling it a miracle sheet mask. Most of them are complete rubbish and just contain crap that sits on your skin and slides off, and really don’t produce any results. But Wei has been doing this for a LONG time, and would like the others to kindly have a seat. The detoxifying masks are so effective that I’m always shocked at how clear and bright my skin looks after 15 minutes under it. They are totally worth every single penny. I love them so much that I bought big boxes of them for my tom ford warm sablelittle sisters,  because I love to share a good skin care secret. Same for the Dr Morita Black Pearl masks. Totally cheap and TOTALLY effective.

Finally, to makeup. Ever since my Cocoa Ravish went bad, I’ve been on the hunt for a replacement. You’d think that I’d know better than to replace one Tom Ford Lipstick with another that might also go bad, but sometimes I can be a little slow on the uptake. Enter Warm Sable. LOVE. I’m wearing it at the top of this post. It’s such a complementary color on my skin. I can wear it bare faced and it still looks good. I’m sure I had no business adding this to my lipstick collection. Here’s hoping that it keeps.

Speaking of Tom Ford, I’m totally into the new Night Bloom powders for fall. But I am NOT ordering them from the Tom Ford website because their customer service is THE ABSOLUTE WORST. I honestly don’t think I’ve come across worse service in a very long time. Those fools wouldn’t answer an email if their life depended on it. And good luck trying to call them. And just when you start to call and threaten them… BAM… a tracking number for something you’ve been waiting on for 6 months. And even then you might only get half your order. If something is backordered, they’ll never let you know. They are just horrid. For such a prestige brand, they really need to do better. So I’ll hold out for Nordstrom, a company that actually values its customers.

That’s it for the aquisitions! I can feel sleep coming on. Later Lovelies! ❤


Murphy’s Law…

…states that anything that can go wrong, WILL. Soooooo, about this effort to unplug:

I decided that I was going off the grid for a minute. But I’m doing it during a holiday and FullSizeRender(50)there have to be sales and family stuff and obligations… BUT IT DOESN’T MATTER BECAUSE I’M GOING OFF THE GRID.



One day back on, and I’ve answered about a billion emails, undone a crap promotion that decided to glitch in such a way that it took days for the IT folks to undo… not to mention generated a billion emails and quite a few complaints. I’m making good on it and just offering a flat 30% to apologize and sending out mass emails to that effect. What a mess.

But some amazing things happened. I spent some much needed quality time. I meditated, practiced, breathed, smiled, snuggled with the love of my life, played with newborn babies, fell asleep in a Seven Veils bath and slept on the most amazing bed until I woke up. It was worth every single second. And despite the chaos that tried to meet me when I touched down in Los Angeles, I made the choice not to be consumed by it. One decision, one action, one breath at a time.

While I was away these showed up:


Altareva (far left) was broken. WTF. The applicator popped off the wand and took a swim in the tube. I returned it and haven’t decided whether I’ll replace it. The color is not THAT great, and honestly these things should not malfunction. They cost a mint and seriously, how hard is it to construct a lipgloss? Get a grip Louboutin.

But holiday promotions, jet lag, and broken lipglosses aside, I listened to my spirit and did what would serve it best. I feel rested, balanced, and my skin absolutely thanks me for it.

I came home and my first practice came with some drama (more on that later, because it’s such a WTF thing that it deserves a separate post. 13 years in business and only two people have ever complained about the way I SMELLED), but sometimes you have to leave ridiculous ass people where they are. Otherwise all is well, site is fixed, and 30% off is in effect until Monday at Midnight.

Later Lovelies! ❤